‘I cried because finally I realized I wasn’t just crazy’

The statement belongs to a woman who was ‘finally’ diagnosed with fibromyalgia.

The so-called ‘invisible disease’. The disease that she has to carry around with her all the time, yet it doesn’t properly show. She doesn’t have to wear crutches, sit in a wheelchair or put on something else that overly shows that she’s in recovery mode. Instead, she looks normal from the outside.

However, since so many people, just like the woman being mentioned, suffer from this invisible disease, they’re subjected to a lot of distrust and judgment.

Such as another woman who also has fibromyalgia said;

‘“Well you look JUST FINE”. Like we are attention seekers pretending to be sick. I’m so over worrying about ppl doing that even though it’s taken 25 years!’

What stuck out was the word ‘attention seeker.’

Way back when I was a kid we had a family dog. In fact, we had several family dogs, but one that sticks out was also the one that was the most attention seeking one. Literally, as soon as we turned our backs on the dog, it started to vent and complain because it wanted attention and to be cuddled. Not so weird since it was a dog and since it was especially receptive to physical touch. The other dogs we had didn’t care that much. But this one was crazy.

And you can probably imagine how it was around the dinner table.

Dogs are, as a lot of people know, pretty much omnivores. If there’s any food that falls on the floor, the dog will be there right away and eat it right away. Like a living vacuum cleaner.

Of course, our family dog wanted to eat the food from our plates.

That was attention seeking in a nutshell. The dog had such cute eyes and overall a cute face, it was extremely difficult to say no and reject it. But, as is the case with animals, if you don’t enforce rules, they’ll never learn.

Now, the same kind of applies for humans as well.

What I mean by that is that all the judgement, all the distrust, all the subjective discernment and all the negative thoughts that other people have about those who have fibromyalgia should be met with enlightenment and education, as well as strict rules. What I mean by that is that those who don’t have fibro, don’t get to say how it’s like, because they can never know. In fact, nobody can tell you ‘how you feel’. Irrespective of you having fibromyalgia or not. Only you know what you really feel. This especially holds true if you already have a clinical diagnosis.

Well, you look just FINE’, is what I tell my four year old kid when she’s slipped on the floor and landed on her butt and wants attention and consoling.

‘Get over here and look!’, is what I say. And five seconds later she forgets about having slipped at all.

Proof that it works.

Not so much with fibro and the invisible pain. Just ‘thinking that you’re fine’ doesn’t remove the pain.

At best, it’s rude.

At worst it can be what makes people want to end their lives. Yes, there are people who are in such great pain that they’d rather want to end their lives. Which is why it’s so important to educate people on what fibromyalgia is, and what they can do to battle it.

One method that a lot of people prefer is CBD oil.

That doesn’t mean it’s the only method. And if you’re not ‘sold’ on, or ‘believe’ in CBD oil, then I don’t think you should be taking it. In fact, you should just lay off it and use the regular, over-the-counter or prescription drugs.

But if you’re open to what could possibly be the next big medical revolution, then CBD oil would be a recommended solution.

Find out what works for you.

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