I had a family member tell me it isn’t real…

…and it’s just in my head.’

What I’m talking about here is the good ole’ Fibromyalgia diagnosis. An unlucky person was diagnosed with this chronic pain disorder. And then, they had one of their family members tell them it wasn’t real. Just in their head. Because you know, there’s a lot of inflammation that goes on in your head. All the pain and suffering that people have to go through is just imaginary. There really isn’t any reason to get difficult about it. After all, ‘it’s just something that you need to stop thinking about.’

Shifting terrains, there is something that, when I started doing it, was indeed in my head.

And that was the ‘fear’ of being rejected by girls when I was out dating. I would go up to a girl and be so shy and embarrassed, awkward and afraid to open my mouth that I looked like a sorry excuse for a man.

Certainly not the kind of man a girl would be looking for.

In fact, I’d be the kind of ‘man’ (or boy) that a girl would just laugh at and dismiss.

Getting over those emotions and learning how to deal with them was indeed difficult. In fact, I’d say uncomfortable. It meant I had to go out of my comfort zone. I had to say and do a lot of things I found embarrassing.

But it made me grow as a person.

After a while, the fear vanished.

Unlike pain.

Pain simply doesn’t vanish.

Sure, you can preoccupy yourself with other things. You know, you can knit. You can take a pair of knitting sticks and pretend you can ‘knit the pain away’ by simply focusing on the task at hand.

However, if you have arthritis or inflammation in your fingers, how are you going to think about something else?

The answer is, you can’t.

And, there’s more.

A lot of these family members who want people who have these chronic pain conditions want them to feel ‘guilty’ for not being in shape to attend a convention or seeing other people. Even helping around in the house.

A typical passive aggressive comment from these ignorant family members is something along the lines of ‘You know, you’re allowed to help out in the house as well.’

As if anyone really would fake they had a chronic pain disorder to get away with work?

Speaking of work, a lot of people with fibromyalgia don’t have job.

They simply can’t do it. They don’t have the energy surplus or the mental capacity to deal with a job. If you’re in pain constantly and you have to use mental energy to plan your day out and worry that you may get a flare, you really don’t have what it takes to deal with a regular job.

Why is this so difficult for people to understand?

What makes them say such horrible things? Or think that someone with a chronic pain disorder has it all in their head?

I don’t have that answer other than I believe they’re ignorant.

You want to know who else is ignorant? A lot of people. Especially those who suffer from chronic pain disorders and who don’t want to use CBD oil. There are a lot people who go on these prescription issued drugs that are produced in obscure labs and have a lot of side effects. Not only that, but they may also cause addiction. As if that wasn’t enough, they’re extremely expensive.

With CBD oil, you don’t have that problem.

Except, the taste is a little bit off.

Why don’t you go and try it out?



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