‘I’m having such a hard time, trying to pretend everything is ok’

Aasmund Ryningen
4 min readSep 27, 2020


Don’t we all?

I mean, that is the main takeaway I get from reading what people who struggle with chronic pain have to go through. Because, make no mistake, a lot of people who suffer from any kind of chronic pain disorder such as for example fibromyalgia, want to feel well. They want to be healthy. They want to feel like they matter and that they’re important to someone. But, because of their pain issues they have to retract and retreat.

Have to pull out of social conventions and gatherings. Irrespective whether there are Covid-19 restrictions or not, these people have it difficult. Because, they’re in so deep pain and they don’t know what to do.

Some of them, and I’ve seen this myself sometimes drive into an empty parking lot to cry.

Others put on some music so that they can vent their frustration and get out all the energy, all the anger that’s inside them.

Then again others go see a shrink and think that’s going to help them.


I don’t really know what to say when it comes to seeing shrinks. I am a big believer in assuming responsibility for yourself and your own actions. Of course, when dealing with chronic pain, this is a whole different matter. It’s not like it helps to ‘think positive thoughts’ or ‘believe in yourself so much that tomorrow your pains will be gone.’ That doesn’t work and it’s a dangerous way of presenting a serious issue that has caused misery and grief in people for a lifetime.

However, going to see a shrink is perhaps one of the worst things that you can do.

And I’m going to tell you why.

So, what happens really when you go see a shrink? You sit down and you talk about your problems. Maybe you’ll get challenged on a couple of your points.

But by and large, the main idea is for you to sit there and talk about yourself and your problems.


And again.

And again. And again. And again. And again. And did I forget to mention….again!

Do you see where I’m going with this?

It’s a never ending dark, bottomless hole. All you are supposed to is go to see the psychologist and feel like you’re getting sympathy for your problems. Then, you may get issued some pills for your depression or dark thoughts that you’re supposed to take. Which of course costs a lot of money and makes you addictive. Every time you feel down — every time you have one of these negative thoughts, you start consuming pills.

Before you know it, you’ve become a drug addict.

‘Where’s my fix? I need my pills! NOW!’

But hold on a minute now.

That ain’t all, because irrespective of how many pills you take to battle your thoughts, some of them are without a doubt going to be negative. No matter what, you’re always going to have negative thoughts.

You’re going to feel down and depressed and sad sometimes.

Nothing can prevent that.

Absolutely nothing. And this is the weakness that psychologists, drug labs and various pundits and experts who claim they know this stuff exploit. Whenever someone who suffers from chronic pain have dark thoughts, they invite them into their warm and comfortable surroundings and hand them pills on a platter — literally for them there to consume.

It’s a vile and truly distasteful way of ‘helping out someone’.

We’re now getting to the part where I am supposed to insert a magical solution and say that ‘this works.’ But, I’m not going to do that. Because, it would be unethical and immoral. I would also be lying. The bold and cold harsh truth is that there is no single or simple solution to depression coupled with chronic pain.

People who say that are lying.

However, there are always suggestions that you can do.

Such as doing what a lot of other people have done who pulled themselves out of depression, suicide thoughts and have greatly improved their health quality as well. Most of them have managed to greatly reduce their pain. Others are actually so lucky that they’ve managed to completely remove all the pain they had.

The latter part is an exception of course.

But there is indeed a way to reduce chronic pain and also get you in a better mood that works for most people.

The suggestion (not solution) is surprisingly simple, yet also tremendously difficult.

It demands a lot of effort, energy and willingness to put in the work from your side.

And, it may take some time before you see any change.

But, if you’re sick and tired of all the ‘happy go lucky’ stupid advice out there, I belive this very well be what you need.

So, without further ado, here is my two step suggestion for removing depression and chronic pain.

Of course sans any guarantee.


It goes as follows:

1) Eat healthy. Cut out junk food and start exercising to the best of your abilities.

2) Take CBD oil.

And that’s all.

​​​​​​​Good luck.