Your loneliness is your own fault

Aasmund Ryningen
3 min readSep 5


Let’s talk about what a lot of people are avoiding these days.

Loneliness and not having anyone by your side.

If that is you and you’re genuinely struggling with this, it’s time for a change. Actually do something about it. As in getting out of your home, meeting new people, seek out new things to do, actually challenge yourself for a start. I do not care what you’re doing, as long as you’re doing something. Could be trying out a new activity, going to a new class, going to church or participating in some sort of voluntary work. Whatever that’s out there. Especially if it’s something you haven’t tried out before.

You always grow when you’re forced to think in different ways.

Especially Energy wise.

You’re picking up a new skill. You’re being put in a new and uncomfortable position. Maybe things are even being expected of you.

All good!

Embrace the change and get going.

Now, for something else.

And this is key.

It might sound a little harsh, but ultimately you know that this is true.

Your loneliness is your own fault.

You cannot sit at home and expect other people to come to you and hang out. That’s not how the world works. That’s not how people work. Instead, *you* have to go out there and seek out those people yourself. Over and over again. Until they start missing your company. The longer you’re around someone, the greater an impact they’re going to have on you. And you’re going to impact them, as well.

More, do you think *you* are the only one who’s feeling lonely?

Do you think you’re the only one with those kinds of struggles?

I guarantee you, you’re not.

Instead, I believe there’s an epidemic of loneliness out there. Especially among younger men. Could be women as well, I don’t know. But given the nature of social media and how a lot of chicks get hit up all the time by guys, I cannot envision younger girls being lonely to the same degree as young guys are. It’s simply not how biology and nature works.

Again, I could be wrong.

If you’re reading this and you’re a woman, please let me know.


Now that you know the recipe for solving your loneliness and you’re hopefully implementing it as well, do you know that there’s one important and crucial component which you need to bring with you?

It’s called *ENERGY* and if you seek out someone without it, you might as well just stay at home.

You see, those other people who you seek out? Who quite likely also feel lonely? They too, want Energy. They do not want you coming there and complain about things. They have enough complainypants in their lives. They’re bored out of their minds hearing about their problems.

They want Energy.

They want light.

They want to laugh.

And *you* can give it to them, especially if you are an Electrifying Persona [EP].

If you’d like to learn more about how to become an EP, I would happen to know how to help you out.

You see, in my FREE ebook I have an entire section on the various kinds of people you’re going to meet in your life.

I’ve taken a simple approach and divided them into Energy Enablers [EE’s] and Energy Vampires [EV’s]. You want more EE’s and less EV’s in your life. In fact, I’d say that a lot of people who feel lonely are EV’s. They have an incessant need to let you know about all of their problems.

So, if you’re struggling with loneliness and you’re feeling those EV vibes, you might want to change that into EE territory instead.

But, I’m not going to sit here and spoil all the secrets.

Instead, I want you to read the book for yourself.

Go to my bio, click the link, follow instructions accordingly.

I will then see you on the other side.